If you take a look at guides for how to plan your wedding, you’ll find language oriented mostly towards the bride to be. Naturally, a groom is always expected to participate, but wedding planning is all about picking your battles. The key is to know when to have an opinion, when to help and when to walk away… It’s easy to lose perspective, it’s easy to get confused, and it’s easy to get lured into debates, fights or even teary meltdowns that make no sense.
The good news is that there are many parts of wedding planning where a groom is most definitely needed to offer input and effort, and they are usually described as “the big three” (the date, venue and guest list). Yet, the clothing a groom and his party wears is also something you’ll have to understand as you consider how to plan your wedding.
In fact, your wedding look is something that you definitely want to put some serious thought into as you will be looking at those photos for years to come. Additionally, as you start to find answers about how to plan your wedding, you also have to consider day itself – the realities of a full day and evening in whatever clothes you choose. Would you prefer to feel like yourself or feel uncomfortable and fussy in a suit that doesn’t seem to suit your personal style? Many grooms defer almost entirely to their bride when it comes to this, but if you want a successful wedding day, a good place to begin is to have some definite ideas of what you will, or won’t, want to wear on “the big day”.
So, this means that “step one” of how to plan your wedding is to start making a few plans on your own and well ahead of the moment when you sit down together to make choices.
The First Steps
Experts will tell you to pick a team of groomsmen as early as you can as they can be a lot of help with the various tasks that are all part of wedding planning. Once the team is in place, or plans for gathering a team are created, you can then think more about issues like the date, the venue, the guest list, the ring, your vows and that wedding look.
Chances are, your bride to be has a lot of ideas about her gown and those of her bridesmaids. Relationship dynamics are always unique, and you may find it wiser to defer where colours are concerned. But, knowing that colours are going to be an issue is an important factor. Form an opinion ahead of time, even ask your bride to be about her initial thoughts.
If you want to know how to plan your wedding look as effectively as possible, having already thought about the issue will go a long way towards an easier process. The issues you need to think about include:
- Colors of garments like suits, shirts, vests, cummerbunds, ties, socks, and accessories
- Style and cut of suit – do you want a morning suit, tails, a black-tie look or even a lounge suit with a waistcoat? Long before the two of you sit down to talk about this issue, you may want to have assembled a few images or ideas about the look you really want
- Details – Have you thought about the collar and cuff styles, the width of the lapels, if you will use pocket squares, width of the belt, double or single vents, sock styles…there are many things to know, and you’ll win a lot of points with your bride if you have assembled ideas ahead of time
- Tailoring – When will everyone get fitted and tailored for their clothes? Take charge here and follow through on every item
If you want to know how to plan your wedding, and your wedding look, a good word of advice is to think ahead. Read a few “groom’s guides” to wedding planning and know which issues should be “do not touch” and which “roll up sleeves and help!” Your wedding garments are an area you can really show interest and support and take one item from your bride’s “to do” list.